Happiness can be a funny thing. For many, life goes like this- I’ll be happy when I finish college, I’ll be happy when I own my own home, I’ll be happy when I get married, I’ll be happy when I have a baby, I’ll be happy when (insert anything here), and you get the point. If it seems like you’re constantly running on the happiness hamster wheel, perhaps happiness shouldn’t be your primary goal. Instead, try changing your mindset, try choosing joy! Happiness is short-lived. Joy, however, can be ongoing, and can be felt before, during, and after the meeting of goals. For example- consider the idea that it might be enjoyable to cook, to set the table, and eat with your family, rather than the idea that you’ll be happy after dinner’s done and cleaned up. My guess is that such happiness might last a few seconds before you look around and see something else that needs to be done- yet joy can continue on.
Any tiny moment can be enjoyed- the feeling of warm water as you wash your hands, the sound of birds chirping out the window, or the smell of fresh-cut grass. Seeing an old friend can bring pure, tingly joy for which there are no words. If you practice noticing and experiencing joy, taking just one second out of each hour to find joy, your life will improve with each remembrance of your new primary goal.
To help you get started, here are 5 tips to help you find more joy in your life- everyday!
1. The Joy Of Helping Others- Give your best. Create small acts of random kindness. Hold the door for someone, pay the toll for the car behind you, vow to look for the best in people you see every day, and compliment them on it, etc.
2. Spiritual Joy- Be sure to take time each day to get in touch with your spiritual center, whatever that is for you. Soul replenishment is vital, whether it’s reading scriptures, meditating, or listening to inspiring music. Having silent time to self-reflect on the bigger meaning of it all will help find joy in endless ways.
3. The Joy Of Gratitude- Be grateful for what you have in your life now. Take a few moments every day to really savor what brings you joy and give thanks for it. It could be waking up in a warm bed, enjoying a piece of cake in a cafe while watching the world go by, the sound of your child’s laugh, or simply being healthy.
4. Look At The Bright Side- Pay attention when things go well, and use setbacks as opportunities to learn something. Everything has a silver lining- find it!
5. Seize The Day- Remember Carpe Diem? Slow down. Be in the moment. Really soak up the small moments of life. This can be done anywhere, anytime. Here’s a secret: It’s really the key to true peace and joy. To really slow down and experience the moment fullyâ¬âright here. Right now. Know this moment is precious and will never be here again. Feel the air in your lungs, the warmth of the socks around your feet. No matter what chaos is around you, how much you have to do the rest of the dayâ¬âRIGHT NOW is perfect just as it is. Remember to stop and consciously BE HERE NOW as often as possible, especially during those precious ordinary moments that are already finding their place in your memory of “the good old days”.
~Terri, Eco Crazy Mom
This post was written by Terri Babin, an eco-crazy blogging mom of four dedicated to helping moms go green, without going crazy! For more eco-awesome blog posts like this one please visit Terri at www.EcoCrazyMom.com.
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